This blog is part of a series, Part One got us started with the following great tips:
Rethink your bedroom to maximize partner time,
Grow your body confidence regardless of your age, and
Enjoy the wonders of couples massage techniques.
Find four more of our best practices below. Again, they are in no particular order and this is by no means a comprehensive list. We would love for you to continue the discussion in the comment section.
Kegel Exercises for Two
The health benefits of kegel exercises for women are very well know. Kegels are one of the most effective methods of controlling urinary incontinence naturally. Kegels will stabilize and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Your pelvic floor muscles are an extremely important muscle group. They also play a large role in female orgasms... stronger pelvic floor muscles are directly correlated to stronger orgasms.
The njoy Pure Wand is one of the best female kegel aids available. There are also plenty of other great aids that are available for less than half the Pure Wand's $99 price tag, including the Jade Egg and LELO's Luna Beads.
Now for something much less well known... kegel exercises are also great for men! Reduced urinary incontinence and improved sexual performance are possible for both sexes with a little bit of kegel practice. Men don't have the advantage of using an aid (that's reserved for the ladies), but there's no reason for kegel exercises to not be a team effort!
For lesbian couples, the Share by Fun Factory is a toy that will allow you to simultaneously strengthen and/or show off your existing pelvic strength while having a lot of fun with your partner! Practice your vaginal control with slower, more intimate sensations or work into an excited frenzy together.
Explore Your Fantasies
It's hard to talk about our fantasies. Unfortunately, this is true for almost everyone... even men and women in amazing, open and caring relationships. Today people are very fearful of judgement. It's really too bad, because a little kinkiness can be a truly wonderful thing. A good partner is not going to judge. Instead he or she will be excited for the chance to please you. So spill!
You chose this person as your partner for a reason. If you want to keep the spark going you are both going to need sexual satisfaction. You can't do the same thing in bed for the next half century and expect it to remain hot. Open discussion about wants and needs, do's and don'ts is the key to achieving sexual satisfaction.
Start small with some sexy lingerie or a bit of role-playing and find your way together. Perhaps a vibrator could fulfill a role in a threesome fantasy. Keep in mind that your partner is going to have fantasies of their own and that maturity is key!
Schedule a Weekly Sex Date
Many people suggest a regular date night (and there's nothing wrong with that), but this is a little different... This is a planned sexual encounter. Spontaneity is fantastic, but if you don't plan for sex, it can end up falling to the back burner, or off the stove top altogether. Oh, and planned does not equal boring sex. The build up to a planned date will actually make it more intense.
Mark the date in your calendar and plan appropriately. Wear something that makes you feel sexy to work, then send your partner a racy text on your lunch break. Or, if that is not your style, slip a handwritten note into their briefcase.
There are quite a few ways for partners to turn up the heat as anticipation for your date builds. While maybe too scandalous for most, the We-Vibe 4 Plus can be worn by one partner and remotely controlled throughout the day by the other. For most, this is the perfect toy for use at home or while one of you is traveling, but it all depends on what you and your partner desire.
Explore Sex Toys
There are many sexual aids that can increase both your own and your partner's sexual pleasure. From flavored lubes and light restraints to external and internal massagers, there is an ever growing variety of toys to explore. Manufacturers are constantly innovating and evolving there product lines. Minna Life is a great example of one of our favorite newcomers.
The LELO Ida can deliver a wild new experience for you both. It's designed to stimulate your pleasure zones, and his, in virtually every position imaginable. Designed to be worn during intercourse, Ida stimulates the clitoris and g-spot with eight different settings.
At the end of the day, it really all comes down to communication. You and your partner need to find what works for you now and in the future. That's the only way to create and maintain an amazing sensual and sexual life together. Through constant communication you will work together to make each other happy.
Lastly, always remember to make your relationship the first priority!