It's an unfortunate, but very common reality of relationships... boredom in the bedroom. No matter how much you and your significant other love each other, daily life and distractions often end up overshadowing couple's time. A revamped sexual relationship can be an important and vital step in creating what we all want; a strong, healthy and fun relationship with your significant other.

We will be highlighting what we believe are a few of the best practices in this two part blog. Find three below and another four in part two. They are in no particular order and this is by no means a comprehensive list. We would love for you to continue the discussion in the comment section. Here we go!


Rethink Your Bedroom

 
Modern couples tend to have too much technology in their bedrooms. Revitalize your bedroom by removing mobile devices and turning off the television after a certain time. If you want to fully commit, remove the television altogether and replace it with the calming and seductive flicker of a candle. Though it may seem awkward at first, your bedroom priorities should be sleeping and sexual activity, not checking the latest social media posts.


Grow Your Body Confidence

As women, we often struggle with body image, particularly after having children. However, there is nothing sexier than a confident attitude. Embrace your body and your sexuality. After all, you are a sexual being!

 

The Ola by Minna Life


If you have difficulty achieving satisfaction in the bedroom, it's possible that you need to learn more about your own personal erogenous zones. It's important to discover which particular types of stimulation arouse you, and which bring you to orgasm. If you've never had an orgasm (or struggle to have them) the Ola by Minna Life can be an excellent toy to practice with. It's vibrate function turns on with a gentle squeeze and then turns off when you release. It can record your squeeze patterns for you to replay. Pretty cool! This interactivity encourages experimentation and experimentation is the only way for you to find what really works for you.

The Ola is also great for partner play. The squeeze function facilitates communication as you tell your partner what is working and what's not. Sex with a side of great communication? Sign us up! Record what you and your partner come up with to replay whenever you desire. This way your partner is with you even during solo play.

We'll have more on these in part two, but a few other great toys for couples are the We-Vibe 4 Plus, LELO's Ida and the more affordable Aurora Vibrating Intimate Partners Kit.

 

Explore Couples Massage

With a little practice, some soothing music and scented massage oils, your intimate relationship can be greatly improved with weekly massage dates. Use videos and books or take a couples massage course to learn about this very therapeutic form of bonding. While some massage methods focus on sensual, non-sexual contact, others are more directed toward the stimulation of erogenous zones. There are lots of varieties to discover and explore -- you and your partner won't get bored.

Massage is all about giving and receiving. With a little dedication, you will quickly find yourself very in tune with your partner. It's also a great way to promote communication in a relaxed and calm environment. All good things.

The LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle will help you cross two things off this list. Dim your bedroom lights and allow the candle's light and peaceful scent to set the mood. Spend quality time with your partner while you wait for the candle's wax to melt into a decadent massage oil. Massage your partner... allow your partner to massage you... let intimacy take over.


Alright, we've given you some great starting points. Pick one and go with it! Let us know how it works for you and then move on to the next. If you've got any questions, feel free to call or comment below.

In Part Two we will cover 4 more topics:

1. Rejuvenation Exercises like Kegels

2. Exploring Fantasies

3. Weekly Sex Dates

And lastly, since we are Eve's Garden...

4. The Wonders of Sex Toys

 



About the Author

Kim Ibricevic was hired in 1997 by Dell Williams. She has been running the Eve's Garden NYC location for over 10 years and has been featured in CNN, Marie Claire and The Oprah Magazine. Kim's expertise has helped thousands of Eve's Garden customers to become more sexually healthy and fulfilled.