Valentine's Day is a day for lover's. It's a day to celebrate your relationship with your significant other.

We frequently hear that Valentine's Day is when you show your significant other you care. We respectfully disagree. People in healthy and loving relationships show they care every day. And Valentine's Day is the day to celebrate those healthy and loving relationships.

So how do you celebrate? Well that's up to you. Relationships are diverse. You and yours will have your own unique way of celebrating. We do have one suggestion. When the day unwinds and the lights dim... give sensual massage a try. Take turns melting each other's tension away and relax together. Massage will help you to connect with your partner.



Massage Brings Couples Closer

Physical touch increases emotional attachment. Here's the article at that explains why. Sensual massage is the pinnacle of physical touch. If you’re looking for a way to connect on a physical and emotional level with your partner, then a long sensual massage is just the thing.


What You’ll Need

Everyone knows that a basic massage really only requires a set of hands. However, there are many ways to improve beyond basic. Dimming the lights, lighting your partner's favorite scented candle, and playing the music they find most relaxing will create a tranquil setting that will boost any massage.

JIMMYJANE Ceramic Stone

After the mood is set, there are lotions and oils to consider. The right massage oil will depend on the preferences of you and your partner. Kama Sutra's aromatic massage oils offer comforting scents that can ease tension and relax the mind and body. Warming massage oils can provide a light warming sensation that increases arousal, while soothing sore muscles.

JIMMYJANE has a massage inspired set that includes a massage stone (pictured above) and their AFTERGLOW candle that turns into massage oil as it melts. The set also includes the very popular Form 2 vibe. The video below offers some great tips.


Find Your Technique

There are many great massage techniques. You can perfect one or use a combination.


Perhaps the most common technique, shiatsu massages involve gently pressing your thumbs into the muscles to slowly work out knots and release tension.


Great when used alongside other massage techniques, the stroking technique utilizes a flat, open hand that glides down the body, stroking the skin with a firm pressure that eases sore muscles.


Just as it sounds, a compression massage relies on compressing muscles in the body with your hands, which will improve blood flow and relieve tension.


Magic Wand

The Magic Wand will add powerful vibrations to any massage.



Massages Increase Libido

A sensual massage is the perfect way to set the mood. No studies officially correlate massages to heightened libido, but there's plenty of anecdotal evidence that links the two. Massages decrease the production of cortisol, and low cortisol levels equal less stress. Cortisol also reduces testosterone, which is the driving force behind the male sex drive. Massages positively impact testosterone production by limiting his cortisol levels. When more testosterone is combined with the released of muscular tension you are creating an environment that’s conducive to out-of-this-world sex.

JIMMYJANE Afterglow Candle


Areas to Target

You’ve likely given a few massages in your time, but a sensual massage is a bit different. The goal is to increase arousal  by targeting your partner's erogenous zones. Every person has slightly different erogenous zones. Where one person is very sensitive, someone else may have very limited sensitivity. This is why communication between partners is key!

For women, the skin surrounding the vulva is particularly responsive to touch, as is the nape of the neck, the chest, and the inner thighs. For men, the skin around the upper thighs and penis area is the most sensitive, followed by the soles of his feet. Men have many more nerve endings in their feet than women, which makes this an ideal place to start if massaging a man. The sacrum or the "small of his back" is another great area to explore. It contains nerve endings that are actually linked to his genitals.


A sensual massage is a romantic way to set the mood, increase libido, relax with your partner, and deepen your emotional connection. This Valentine’s Day, surprise your lover with a calming, sensual massage that will relax their mind and body, while firing up their sex drive.


About the Author

Kim Ibricevic was hired in 1997 by Dell Williams. She has been running the Eve's Garden NYC location for over 10 years and has been featured in CNN, Marie Claire and The Oprah Magazine. Kim's expertise has helped thousands of Eve's Garden customers to become more sexually healthy and fulfilled.